Red Umbrella Project

Amplifying the voices of people in the sex trades

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Can you relate to this? Share and add your story if you can…"Like many clients, he assumed I had all my implements at hand and could just get up and go. As if I carried my leather straps with me when I did things like run to the supermarket and was willing to drop everything to spank him." - Rei, Prose & Lore, Issue 2www.sexworkermemoir.org

Can you relate to this? Share and add your story if you can…

"Like many clients, he assumed I had all my implements at hand and could just get up and go. As if I carried my leather straps with me when I did things like run to the supermarket and was willing to drop everything to spank him." - Rei, Prose & Lore, Issue 2

www.sexworkermemoir.org

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Have you ever felt this way? How do you get down to business, and put on your game face? How does your work persona differ from your “real” persona? Feel free to share your stories, and send comments our way!
Essence Revealed said:
"I turn off me and focus on turning my stripper persona on…Tonight I forget to remember that I’m supposed to be ashamed. I forget to remember how much I’m supposed to hate this game." - Prose & Lore, Issue 1

Have you ever felt this way? How do you get down to business, and put on your game face? How does your work persona differ from your “real” persona? 

Feel free to share your stories, and send comments our way!


Essence Revealed said:

"I turn off me and focus on turning my stripper persona on…Tonight I forget to remember that I’m supposed to be ashamed. I forget to remember how much I’m supposed to hate this game."

- Prose & Lore, Issue 1

Filed under sexwork sexworker stripper strip club erotic dance

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(via For Victims, Volunteers, a Movement Towards Safer Sex Work - The Chicago Bureau)

So about that death rate… first of all, its a little unclear how the numbers for that murder rate are arrived at, since there is no option for putting “sex worker” on the census, as most sex work is not legally or culturally recognized as work. So the number itself is likely inaccurate.

But more importantly, sex work is almost twice as deadly as being a fisherman BECAUSE it is illegal and stigmatized, BECAUSE the work is largely unregulated and there is no safety standards. When sex workers try to get justice or “complain” about labor and safety practices, no one listens - instead we are further criminalized. This is structural violence - and structural violence kills us at least as often, perhaps even more often, than violent clients and partners.

(via For Victims, Volunteers, a Movement Towards Safer Sex Work - The Chicago Bureau)

So about that death rate… first of all, its a little unclear how the numbers for that murder rate are arrived at, since there is no option for putting “sex worker” on the census, as most sex work is not legally or culturally recognized as work. So the number itself is likely inaccurate.

But more importantly, sex work is almost twice as deadly as being a fisherman BECAUSE it is illegal and stigmatized, BECAUSE the work is largely unregulated and there is no safety standards. When sex workers try to get justice or “complain” about labor and safety practices, no one listens - instead we are further criminalized. This is structural violence - and structural violence kills us at least as often, perhaps even more often, than violent clients and partners.

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#StandwithMonica A few words on solidarity by Rita Rachaels, in a story about the policing of trans street-based sex workers, in Issue 2 of Prose & Lore:"We were the world’s proudest misfits…When we walked off the stroll, the gentleness and simplicity of our holding hands was the refuge we made for each other."

#StandwithMonica 

A few words on solidarity by Rita Rachaels, in a story about the policing of trans street-based sex workers, in Issue 2 of Prose & Lore:

"We were the world’s proudest misfits…When we walked off the stroll, the gentleness and simplicity of our holding hands was the refuge we made for each other."

Filed under sexwork sexworker monica jones

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Nursing home hired strippers for patients: suit

tl;dr: all sex work is immoral, old people expressing sexuality is immoral, old people should not have autonomy over how they spend their money, etc.

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Nation's largest school district adopts guidelines for affirming transgender students

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The New York City Department of Education, which runs the largest school district in the country, has issued new guidelines on respecting and affirming transgender students and their needs in schools.

Under the new guidelines, educators are “encouraged to” use a student’s correct name and pronouns. Trans students should not be forced to use bathrooms and athletic facilities that do not match their gender identity, and there are clearer procedures in place for addressing harassment against trans students.

However, the Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund points out that the guidelines fall short in several places. For example, they don’t offer a clear position on trans students participating in contact and competitive sports, and they don’t explicitly give trans students the right to use bathrooms and facilities that match their gender identity. So if my interpretation is correct, for example, a trans girl may not be forced to use the boys’ bathroom, but she could be asked to use a single-stall bathroom rather than allowed to use the girls’ room. 

“We are pleased to see the Department of Education issue guidelines that support transgender students in the New York City school system and applaud its commitment to take incidents of anti-transgender harassment seriously,” said TLDEF Executive Director Michael Silverman. “This is a big step in the right direction, but transgender kids face unique challenges in school that require more. Officials need to ensure that transgender students have the same opportunities as all students that allow them to thrive. That means treating them as the boys and girls that they are, including letting them use bathrooms that match their true identities. Anything less stigmatizes them as the only boys and girls who are forced to use separate facilities.”

“In addition,” said Silverman “schools must allow transgender kids to play competitive sports just like all other students. The values of teamwork and fair play that school sports teach are important for everyone in school, including transgender students. Ensuring that transgender students can take part in their school environments as their authentic selves keeps them safe, builds their confidence, and helps them to succeed in school. School districts around the country are recognizing the importance of supporting transgender students. We’re happy to see New York City following suit, and would like to see its school system become an even better ally to transgender students.”

The existence of a policy like this is a good start, especially in such a prominent school district, but these guidelines clearly do not extend far enough to adequately protect trans students. Educators should not be “encouraged to” use correct names; this must be the standard. The right of a student to use the correct bathroom shouldn’t be up to the whim of a school administrator; it must be treated as a right. 

(via dynastylnoire)